Friday, June 5, 2009

How to Make People Hate You – in 5 Easy Steps

It is not really hard to make people hate you. Here are 5 easy things you can to get all people to hate you!
1. Become a know-it-all:
Become a know it all, and before long you will be wondering where all the friends have gone. People love someone they can tell something new to. Indeed, the main reason we get into friendships and relationships is to have someone listen to us. If there is nothing people can tell you, and it is only you who is always telling them things, then clearly you are of no value as friend, and rather than try to get you to listen to them, people will start avoiding you.
The moral: even if you know everything, pretend – at least for the sake of your friends – that you don’t know some things, and let people be the ones in the know.
2. Become judgmental:
Become judgmental in your conversations, and you will soon be wondering where all the friends went to. Once people discover that your standards are too high – and this they will discover through your comments about others and so on, they start to feel that perhaps they too, don’t measure up to your standards. And rather than try to work to your standards, they’ll simply start to avoid you.
The moral: keep your judgments within yourself.
3. Start to stink.
No, your friends won’t hold a conference and decide to start avoiding you because you have started stinking. It will be subconscious. Each person will on their own start to feel that you are simply not a ‘good person’ for a reason they can’t quite pinpoint. It is programmed into our subconscious minds to like people who smell nice and avoid people who stink.
The moral: investment in a good cologne is not superfluous.
4. Dominate conversations.
Dominate conversations, and you will soon have no one to speak to, expect yourself. The way conversations are supposed to work, according to communication experts, is like football games. In a football game, you get the ball, hold it for a few seconds, and then pass it on to the next person on the field. If you hold it for too long, you waste time and you might be red-carded. In a conversation situation, if you dominate conversations for too long, rather than try to catch your attention, people will simply avoid talking with you.
The moral: focus more on listening than on speaking.
5. Start bragging.
Start bragging, and you start to make your friends feel inadequate. Look, we are programmed (or conditioned) to always want to feel that we are doing better than (or at least well as) other people. If it emerges that you want to create the impression that you are doing better than others, they might start avoiding you, to avoid feeling inadequate. Granted, not many healthy people can boast openly, but even if your friends feel that you implicitly bragging, they may start avoiding your company.
The moral: let your achievements speak for themselves, don’t brag.